It’s official! I am the parent of a student driver. 🙂
As I embark upon this next journey in my daughter’s life, I have been trying to share with her my experiences as a new driver. I remember what it felt like when I first got behind the wheel. I remember vividly the smell of the old cars we practiced in for range. I remember the torn seats and heavy doors that would not close unless you slammed them shut. I remember pressing my foot on the gas to take my first merge onto the expressway.
Now that I remember, I wonder if my mother was the nervous parent? Did she break out in a cold sweat or felt nauseated as I put the car in to drive. That is me today! The nervous and nauseated parent while trying to offer encouragement by saying, “good job”.
On behalf of all parents of students drivers everywhere, please be patient when you see the student driver sign. Pretty PLEASE!
Have you ever went to sleep and woke up feeling extremely tired? That has been me for the last few days. Looking at my Fitbit results I was restless on average about 10 times per night and woke up on average about 4 times per night. Why? Why? Why?
Could it be that I was remembering the uncomfortable conversations from earlier in the day? Maybe I was thinking about the tough decisions I had to make. Maybe I was still seeing the images of the hurricane from the news. Whatever it was, I have no problem saying that I am a Super Mom who is a Super Woman that is Super Tired!
I want to be a Super Rested Mom. I really do! I realize that in order for me to be a Super Mom who is a Super Woman that is Super Rested I need to change up my nightly routine. Maybe I will try getting to bed at an decent hour, no news after 9:30 p.m. and a cup of Kava tea. Prayerfully this week will be better.
Sleep is our only saving grace not for the sake of getting rest but it helps repair our brain, heart, and blood vessels. Maybe that is why I forgot the meeting, I didn’t sleep long enough to remember. 🙂
To all Super Moms everywhere I encourage you to get super rest!
Yesterday I participated in a service project to help clean up a local school’s playground. There were different tasks that needed to be done and I chose to pull weeds. For something so small, the weeds were prickly and hard to pull from the surface. Beneath the surface was the root which at times was so deep I had to use a hoe to dig around it. It was only then that I could pull the root completely out. For those of you that don’t pull weeds, if you don’t pull them from the root they will eventually grow back!
. To deal with issues, deal with the root of the problem.
As I continued to pull weeds a monarch butterfly landed on a weed nearby. It rested for awhile then circled over my head before landing again. I recalled how my grandmother would tell me that seeing a butterfly represented someone’s life who has gone on. I have also heard that butterflies represented release. Whether it was for a life that has passed on or for a life that continues, I envisioned carefree living. There was something very peaceful about the monarch butterfly. So peaceful that I watched it intensively for a few moments before it finally flew away.
Yesterday I understood how old issues can return if we don’t deal with the root of the problem. Get to the root of what’s holding you back. Get to the root of your frustration. Get to the root of your disappointments. Get to the root of your fears and be released.
Today I watched my teenage daughter get prepared for her first day of school. She was singing, dancing and of course taking selfies. This excitement has occurred over the last few years but I remember a time when she had the first day jitters.
I smiled this morning recalling how she used to be in tears on the first day of school. She was so nervous about meeting her new teachers and at that time making new friends. To help ease her anxiety we would read the First Day Jitters by Julie Danneberg.
Now, she is a first day of school pro. Gone are the days of anxiety and first day jitters. She is pumped up and ready to go. She made her lunch the night before, she prepared her clothes, and packed her book bag with all her supplies. Did I mention she did all of this without me asking?
Well look at that! I have so much free time on my hands I think I will go read the First Day Jitters by Julie Danneberg for old times sake.
Praying for a safe and enjoyable school year for all of our children!
After a day of running errands I stopped at a local restaurant for lunch. As I pulled into a parking space, a car with two elderly women pulled into the parking space next to me. Since our spaces were so close I waited patiently for them to leave their vehicle. As I waited I noticed that neither of them were smiling. They both had very stoic looks on their faces. I immediately said privately to myself, I hope I don’t like that when I am their age. Then I wondered if I ever look like that when I am driving possibly after a long day at work or after a stressful situation.
As I exited my vehicle I walked past them to hold the door open and I smiled. They both smiled back and graciously said thank you. I am not sure if they realized how they looked when they arrived but I noticed they continued to smile while they were eating and when they were leaving. Their looks could have been one of hunger pains or maybe something else but I will never know. What I do know is that I smiled , they smiled back and all was good with the world at least for those moments.
Have you done a mirror check lately? What do other drivers see when they pull up to you at the stop light? Are you frowning or are you smiling? If you catch someone looking down just give them a quick smile because a smile can make all the difference in the world.
I like to approach things strategically. I plan, act, and then review the results. I understand that everyone may not approach things in that manner. What I don’t understand is why others are less accepting of me being this way.
It is easy to feel as if we need to go with the status quo of how others think we should behave. When that happens then we are not staying true to who we really are. To have someone say that you are too complex or that your vision of doing things is on a bigger scale can be mind boggling. It may cause you to second guess yourself or feel as if you are doing something wrong. Yet, there is nothing wrong with thinking big.
It may be difficult trying to collaborate with people that are comfortable with where they are. Unfortunately when they are comfortable doing things a certain way it causes stagnation and no growth. Asking them to think big challenges them to change and may require them to do more. If they are not willing to commit to the change or it breaks them out of their comfort zone, they may ask you to scale down to meet them where they are. Don’t scale down to meet others where they are! Stay true to yourself, scale up and continue to think big.
I am by no means the type of person that will shy away from speaking the truth. Despite this, from time to time I still find this hard to do. It’s easy to speak the truth when everyone is happy and things are going well. It is more challenging when things are falling apart.
In both my life and work experiences I have learned that you can’t build trust without having the freedom to speak the truth. Being able to communicate openly is essential for building trust in family, personal and business relationships. If we have the freedom to speak openly and honestly, we don’t have to try figure out what is not being said or when a need is not being met. We can ask the tough questions and have an opportunity to be heard.
This opportunity opens the doors of sharing what we are experiencing with a family member or team member. Sharing openly enables learning what each other’s needs are so that we learn to support each other in those areas. That support helps to build trust.
If you want to build trust with someone give them the freedom to speak truth.
Recently I wrapped up another successful year of working with a group of amazing 6-8th grade mentees. We recognized our graduates at a luncheon attended by their families, community members and other mentors.
A few things I enjoy most about working with mentees is seeing them grow, come out of their comfort zone and develop their self-esteem. All of this they learn through our time together every month. I do this because it’s an area of service near and dear to my heart. I don’t expect anything in return but it feels good when a parent says thanks for all you have done or when the student tells me how much they have enjoyed our time together.
Just those two words, thank you, can make all the difference in the world no matter what language you say it in.
Today in the United States we observe Father’s Day which is held every year on the third Sunday in June. Many however may not know that the first observance of Father’s Day occurred July 5, 1908. The observance occurred as the result of the lives of fathers lost in a mining accident leaving their children fatherless.
There are some men who are amazing fathers. They take care of their families and provide for their children. There are also men who step in to fill the fatherless gaps for the men who do not take care of their responsibilities. They become the circle of influence for children of single parent homes.
These men are leaders in their communities, teachers, mentors, coaches and relatives. You may not receive a card today but know that you are truly appreciated for the nurturing and support of children who are not your own.
God bless you for filling in the fatherless gaps.
Earlier this week I was sitting in a meeting and the room starting spinning. I could still hear the conversation but felt completely out of whack physically. After taking a few sips of water I was able to get it together. I spent the rest of the day trying to figure what was the trigger and what was my body trying to tell me. I know that I had gone full steam ahead with my work schedule but I had also made it a point to take out time to spend with my family. So what was it?
I know that I am at an age now that I have to be more conscientious of when I feel out of sync. I understand the importance of addressing these types of things rather quickly. I also don’t find it a coincidence that I have been postponing scheduling my annual physical. It has been on my to do list for weeks. Last week it was as if my body was trying to tell me something. Whatever it was I don’t want another room spinning event to occur for me to find out.
As moms we schedule doctor appointments for everyone else in the family and usually save ours for last. Don’t wait for the warning signs before going to see your doctor. Don’t wait until the room is spinning and your body says, “Can you hear me now?”